Why I Love Being a Mum

“Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.” – Erich Fromm

Having had a rather complex and distant relationship with my own mother, I’ll be honest — for a long time, motherhood wasn’t something I particularly aspired to. In fact, the idea of having children made me anxious, and I wasn’t sure I would easily embrace the role of a mother. However, beneath all my apprehensions, I’ve discovered something surprising: becoming a mother has brought me a profound and indescribable sense of joy.

My son is now approaching his third birthday, and as I reflect on the experience so far, I can confidently list several reasons why, despite its challenges, being a mum is truly extraordinary. It’s something you often hear: time flies. And it’s true — the first few years of his life have been so intense, filled with special moments that I wish I could capture every second to cherish forever.

1. Personal Growth

Bringing a child into the world is so much more than just giving birth. Whether it’s through natural delivery or a C-section, the moment you first hold your baby, an overwhelming sense of fulfilment and empowerment sweeps over you. Both pregnancy and the journey of raising a tiny human have transformed me, encouraging me to grow and mature, not just for myself but for my child. The realisation that I could nurture and care for another life gave me a new sense of purpose, pushing me to take charge of my life in ways I hadn’t imagined before. It’s hard to explain, but once your life is no longer solely about you, you find more motivation and drive than ever.

2. Strong and Unconditional Love

Before becoming a mum, I thought I knew what love was. I mean, I have a husband, a loving family, and wonderful friends. I knew the feeling of love, or at least, I thought I did. But nothing could have prepared me for the intensity of a mother’s love. The unconditional, honest, and pure love I have for my child is something incredibly powerful — particularly in that first year when so many fears and challenges arise. It’s a love that transcends anything I’ve ever known.

3. Strengthening the Bond with Your Partner

There’s no way to describe the moment you and your partner meet your child for the first time. Becoming parents together is a uniquely mesmerising experience that creates an even deeper connection. The bond between us has strengthened in ways I didn’t anticipate, as we both navigate this new chapter of our lives. Our child is a part of both of us, and it’s amazing to see how much of ourselves we recognise in him. From the moment he was born, our relationship expanded into something far greater, encompassing new dynamics as husband and wife, as well as mother and father. Growing and adapting to these roles together has created an unshakable connection between us.

4. Reliving Childhood

Raising a child inevitably stirs up memories of your own childhood, and, more often than not, those memories are filled with joy. Playing with similar toys, singing the same nursery rhymes, and teaching games from my own childhood has been a delightful experience. And it’s not just fun — it’s an important part of how children learn. Watching my child discover the same simple pleasures I once enjoyed allows me to reconnect with my younger self, and it’s also a lovely opportunity to pass down family traditions to the next generation.

5. Cherishing Every “First”

From their first sounds, steps, and words to their first tooth and beyond, each “first” is a precious milestone. Watching my son grow and develop, helping him navigate the world and seeing the wonder in his eyes as he learns new things, fills me with immense pride. Every achievement, no matter how small, is a moment of amazement, and while parenting is certainly challenging, it’s incredibly rewarding. Each year brings new lessons and experiences, and there’s nothing quite like the joy of seeing your little one flourish.

6. Needing Space but Missing Your Child

Let’s be real: every parent needs a break sometimes. Taking time for yourself or as a couple is important, particularly in that first year when your baby is so dependent on you. As my son has grown, it’s become easier to take those longer breaks, but I’ve found that, even when I have time to myself, my thoughts are never far from him. It’s difficult to fully relax when your mind is always wondering how your child is doing, especially when trusting others with their care can be challenging. In time, I’m sure I’ll become more comfortable with taking breaks, but for now, I’m always eager to return to him.

7. Hearing “Mummy”

One of the sweetest joys of motherhood is hearing my son call me “Mummy.” No matter how many times he says it, I never tire of the sound. Whether he needs something, wants to ask a question, or just wants to get my attention, the way he says my name with different tones melts my heart every time. Right now, I’m the centre of his world, and I cherish every moment that he looks to me for comfort and guidance.

8. Love in All Its Forms

The most beautiful thing about being a mum is not just the love I give, but the love I receive. His cuddles, his little “I love you,” his smiles — they’re all expressions of a love so pure and innocent. The way he nestles into me when he’s sleepy, the look of adoration in his eyes when we’re together, and the way he playfully clings to me when I’m busy — it’s all love. These moments of affection are priceless, and they remind me daily just how special our bond is. There’s no better feeling than being loved by your child.

Sarah the Digital GypSea

United Kingdom, May 2020